I want to write more about one of the main topics of this forum, which is how to love better. The problem that I’m always facing is this: How do I write about mistakes in love without annoying other people, especially my wife?  Everything I might write about making mistakes in relationships will make her ask if I’m writing about her and criticizing her.

I don’t want to write a blog that amounts to a relationship advice column.  The Internet has a million of those already. No one reads them.

These are the question I’m stuck on:  How do I practice a ministry that improves my life and the lives of people around me by writing about how to love better, and how do I write on this topic in a way that doesn’t cause conflict in my own family?

The writing has to be meaningful. When I look at Internet sites about relationships, I see a lot of junk. I see a lot of statements about relationships, a lot of do’s and don’ts, but I don’t see the substance behind the statements.  Most of these sites say in essence; “I’m an expert on the subject.  Just believe me.”  No thanks.

A lot of websites are effectively programs.   Do these things, don’t do those.  Live like this, not that.  If I weren’t researching relationship sites I would never have spent time looking at those sites.  Now that I’ve found them, I ignore them.  That kind of writing is a dead end.

One of the problems of the Internet and blogging is that the medium is very passive. The Internet is more about communicating data than participating in change.

It’s becoming more apparent that involvement in an organization is necessary. Person to person communication is much different than raw data communication.  The problem is finding or creating an organization that is focused on making and keeping healthy relationships.

I loved Dale Carnegie training. It was very high powered. The problem with Dale Carnegie is that it is financially driven. The trainers need special training that takes lots of time. Most people won’t do that long-term on a volunteer basis.

Deism 235 years ago was closely associated with Freemasonry. People aren’t interested in Freemasonry like they used to be. There is too much weirdness in it. The symbols and rituals are strange. Why would anyone want to belong today? I don’t know.

It may be possible to create a beautiful Deist church designed around beautiful weddings, and use that as the basis for the organization and as a way to attract people initially.

The organization would be club-like, but it would center around the long term benefits of personal growth as well as being fun to participate in. It would have to add enough value to people’s lives to make it worth spending time and offering donations.

The church services and charter would be centered around personal growth.  The activities would be enjoyable. It would be something that both men and women would enjoy. Women tend to like the big weddings and social activities. But for regular guys like me there has to be something more. For me personally, I don’t like the God of the Christian church, sorry Guy. He’s no fun. He’s mean. My God should be a fun guy to hang out with.

Stumble it!