"Don’t criticize, condemn or complain."  This is one of the few negative teachings from Dale Carnegie.  This is also one of the most important. 

I can’t imagine how many times I’ve seen people destroy their own relationships, at work and at home, because they don’t know this.  When you criticize, condemn and complain you separate yourself from others.  A husband or wife breaks up their own marriage by griping and nagging at, and to, and about their spouse.  Who wants to be a lover at bedtime to someone who just tore them down at dinner.  Negative talk is the anti-aphrodisiac.  Few things will drive a spouse into the arms of another faster.  Or if not a lover, then an escape of some sort.  Maybe sports, or drinking, or Internet addiction, or crafts, or shopping.

When you speak negatively about one person behind their back to a second person, you lose the faith of the second person.  The moment you tear one person down, the second person knows they can no longer trust you because you might do the same to them when they are not around.  Backstabbing causes others to not trust you.

Healthy relationships require that one person have faith in another.  Negative talk destroys faith.  It is the opposite of love talk.

Positive talk builds healthy relationships.  Negative talk builds sick relationships.

Stumble it!